If you have come to a point in your life where you decide to seek counselling the next step is to choose who to approach. I realise that there are many different services and types of therapy which can make it seem daunting. Taking that next step can feel hard enough. And because counselling is a very personal experience, it is important to look for someone who you feel ‘fits’ with you. For this reason I have tried to explain my approach as fully as I can so you know what you can expect from me as a therapist.
My Approach to Counselling
Person-Centred Counselling is an approach that believes that every individual has the inner resources to help themselves grow and develop. As your counsellor I have trust in your abilities. Rather than giving direct advice, I focus on empowering you to find the answers you are looking for. My main task is to listen, understand and support you in reaching the fulfillment of your personal potentials.
“If obtacles are removed, the individual will develop into a mature, fully realised individual, just as an acorn will develop into an oak tree.”
Irvin D. Yalom The Gift of Therapy
You may of course be struggling, you may not be able to remove the obstacles which have brought you to counselling. My job is not to judge what has brought you here, but to relate to you on a human level, to listen with empathy, to ask questions and reflect, to help you to reach a new point of understanding about yourself. Sometimes emotional blockages can be quite deep, so it is important not to ‘force’ change but to work at a pace that feels comfortable for you, the client. As your counsellor I aim to provide a safe, contained therapeutic environment to support you in exploring thoughts, feelings and issues.
Some issues you might want to use counselling for include:
- anxiety / stress
- problems at work / school
- traumatic events / abuse
- feeling overwhelmed
- adjustment / expatriation
- family and parenting issues
- post-natal depression
- issues relating to pregnancy and birth
- problems in ‘moving on’ in your life
- general unhappiness
Of course it is also possible that you want to visit a counsellor, but are not yet clear what the issues are. This is also fine. I will offer support and respond with empathy to help you find out more about your inner needs. I do not have a standardised approach to counselling. Every client is an individual and I will respond to you as you are.